Day 7: A True Friend Never Gets in Your Way, Unless You Happen to be Going Down

Sep 26, 2010

I’ll be the first to admit that when it comes to friends, especially best friends I have a poor track record. I usually end up being the only person who actually cares enough to put effort into the friendship and often bends over backwards only to find that I can never receive the same in return. As a result I’ve pretty much stopped trying to find a best friend because I recognize that my expectations of what a best friend should be or even what a friend should be is often too high… until now.

I have three amazing people in my life who I know would do anything for me regardless of what it was. They would drop everything to be there for me and lose sleep over me which is something that I have never really had. I am fortunate that these girls are in my life and even more fortunate that they felt me worthy of their friendship. I know that the prompt said to tell you about my best friend in great detail, well I’m lucky enough to have more than one– which is a first for me.

Kristen- I have known Kristen for several years and coincidentally enough we met through Robby. The meeting was love at first sight, in fact it was more like bitch at first sight and we couldn’t stand one another. There was just something about here that rubbed me the wrong way and I would go out of my way to avoid having to do things that involved her. It wasn’t until I randomly decided to add her on Livejournal and she accepted- which was a surprise- in which we started to recognize and realize why we did not like each other. We’re two peas in a pod, so to speak. We think alike, act alike, and have a lot of the same trust issues and as a result we ended up deflecting each other¹.

Once we realized what the issues was we developed a quick friendship and she’s one of the people I can just look at and know they understand what I’m trying to say. It’s kind of freaky sometimes but it’s kind of nice. We don’t need words to convey what we’re saying, we just know. I love her to pieces and am so fortunate and lucky to have her in my life².

Jennifer- I have only known Jenn for a short time but we clicked just like that. We didn’t click instantly and I think a large part of that is because she has a shy personality when it comes to new people which results in the masking of her sarcastic nature, but once we got pass that hurdle, we were pretty much attached to the hip– or AIM? She’s one of the people who understands the frustrations of married life and someone I can run to when I want to throttle Robby for doing something that drives me up the walls. I can cry at her or with her and she will just listen and isn’t afraid to tell me what I need to hear. Plus, she’s amazing in bed… oops, sorry fantasy slipped out there .

What it really boils down to is having a friend who understands despite our differences. I’m loud and confrontational, she’s amicable and diplomatic. I’m crazy and off the wall with everyone I know, she is often reserved and shy depending on who she’s with. We complement and balance each other in a way and I know she has my back no matter what.

Meeka Micah Moo Moo Choo Choo- I have also only known Mika for a short time, but she kind of stole my heart when I met her. When we first started talking, we didn’t talk much, probably in large part because I’m not a very open person with new people, but despite that I admired her for being able to jump right in to the craziness that is Jenn and I and not feel intimidated or out of place. I remember when I randomly invited her to one of our video chats- which any sane person would have declined- but she accepted and we all clicked. It’s like she completed our little circle and now it’s always Angel, Kristen, Jenn, and Mika. We are so awesome that we’re like 4 peas in a pod. You are jealous, don’t lie!

All in all, I consider myself very lucky to have found such amazing people. I’ve never been lucky in the friend department and I’ve always felt like I give more than I get, but these ladies have shown me that’s not always the case and I’m grateful for that. I love each and everyone of you and am sooo lucky to have you in my life. I hope you know that. -big wet kiss-

1. Think magnets. Same poles end up pushing apart.
2. And one of the very few females I can live without that doesn’t drive me up the wall.