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You Can’t Fix Stupid… Or Can You?
Aug 21, 2011
Anyone who gets a chance to know me realizes very quickly that I am the individual who often will say out loud what others are thinking but are too afraid to say. We have all grown up under the stipulations of “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all.” but why?
I can tell you for certain that it has not done me a lick of good for someone to hold their tongue when I’m clearly making stupid choices. What has it done instead? Caused me a whole lot of trouble and that my readers is why I value honesty. Honesty in the sense that if I am doing something or planning on doing something stupid, I NEED to fucking know. It doesn’t do me any favors for someone to not speak their mind because they do not want to upset me– I can tell you right now, upsetting me is the quickest way to ensure I don’t do anything idiotic– ask my husband, he’s good at this particular game. 
Now, I will be the first to tell you that like most individuals, whenever some tells me I’m doing something stupid or I’m wrong my initial response is to react defensively— but honestly who wouldn’t respond that way? What I have come to learn is that I need time to analyze and process the information I receive before I have the ability to internalize the feedback and then accept the suggestion, statement, etc. as truth.
The problem I seem to have run into with these people who need to be told they are being idiotic is that they lack the ability to do what I can. No one is asking you to gracefully accept negativity as soon as it spurts out of someone’s mouth; what I am asking you to do is to NOT disregard it. Just because you do not hear what you like doesn’t mean it isn’t true.
The point of all this is to say that we need to stop all the hand handling and look at the honesty of others as a tool and even more importantly as a necessity. Will it be something you want to hear? Not in the least. Is it something you need to hear? Abso-fucking-lutely. Can it help you in the long run? Only if you allow it to. Receptivity is key here.
In short….
You can fix stupid or at the very least help prevent it— the catch? You have to be willing to look like an asshole when you do.
Aug 22, 2011
There are some things in which I totally agree that people need to learn for themselves– there are other things, that can effect another individual where people need to speak out.
When the impact of a decision effects not only that person but other bystanders, people need to say something or when people continue to do the same shit over and over again because everyone refuses to tell them they’re being moronic, someone needs to say something. That’s just my opinion though, lol.
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