The Marriage Chronicles: Disagreement Does Not Equate to Being Unsupportive

I walk this line with people a lot in my life it seems… You CAN disagree with things they are doing, and STILL be supportive. Once it’s clear what your position is (you disagree with his choice, you’re concerned about his health), you then have to let them make their choices. The disagreement has to be put aside, though, if you’re to remain supportive. That means not continuing to bring up your concerns all the time once they move forward with their decision. That’s the hard part for me. And it’s TOUGH to be supportive when you’re concerned, but I find that I try to focus on the good parts (in this case, helping him to find the biggest bang for his 500 calories) and not on the parts I disagree with. And being supportive while still disagreeing, for me, means not saying “I told you so” later either. Biting my tongue is a common practice for me. LOL!
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First off thanks for the info on that. i didn’t know it was shots thought it was drops in the mouth so really thanks.
also i wish my spouse would engage like that. I didn’t want to marry an opionless yes-man. As long as you aren’t setting him up for failure you are supporting him. If you hide the needles that’s another matter. What does the doc say with his heart condition?
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If you could do it, all the power to you. If it were me, anytime he brought it up to complain about it, I’d say “I told you so.” That’s just how I am.

Maybe that makes me a bad person but if I don’t agree with it, I can’t support it. It makes me seem selfish and maybe it is. I just can’t see me doing it.

Monika aka Mumonthebrink
Sep 3, 2011

I think I’m with you- if I trongly disagree with something the OH was trying to do I would do everything to discourage him and would really struggle not to say “I told you so” if he failed at it. Unsupportive, yes. And I blame it on me loving him. Otherwise I wouldn’t care what he does, would I?

This is where I am with J (my husband). He’s into trying all types of supplements along with his workout. Some of the products..I don’t think are good for him, but if it is what he wants, and he has done the research, then I’m okay with it.

It’s not being unsupportive at all. You love him enough to voice your concerns. And you care about him enough to let him make the decision for himself.

With J, if it doesn’t work, then oh well. At least he tried.
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I completely agree with this and, sometimes, you can disagree because you see the bigger picture of just see things differently and want to do what is actually best for a person.
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