Dec 13, 2010
I have to admit that it amuses me to no end when people feel the need to type up blog posts on pet peeves/reasons/things that prevent them from visiting other websites. It amuses me because under all that, though probably not intentionally, is the implication that we should want these people to visit our blogs, to which I raise the question and you are who exactly?
What is so special about you that I or anyone for that matter should care what would prevent you from visiting our blogs? Is there something special or magical about you that we don’t know or do you just happen to have your head so far up your ass that you think people actually care about the obscene check list you’ve created to determine if a blog is worthy of your visit?
I’m sorry and you are who exactly?
And I bet those of you who are silently seething in your chairs because I had the nerve to voice what many won’t have taken the time to scroll through my rants category and thus have found two specific posts in which I give suggestions as to what might dissuade others from visiting a website.
But that’s the difference. I offered suggestions. I did not concoct a list in which I count on my fingers all the reasons I refuse to visit or read other people’s websites.
Sure, we all have our pet peeves, we all have list in our head that we’ve created that are big NOs! in our book and that’s fine but there’s a fine line between suggestions and demands and for those who come across as demanding, well…
I reiterate my previous question—and you are who exactly?
Nov 20, 2010
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May 24, 2010
I don’t know about anyone else, but I think this is something that needs to be addressed; especially given that this has become a HUGE platform for bloggers to promote their blogs by tweeting when a new blog has been posted on their website. It’s an awesome tool– when used appropriately.
To be more specific, it’s a great tool to use, to say, “Hey, guess what I blogged, come check it out!” But is there such thing as overuse? I believe so. Posting once that you’ve updated is great. I see the tweet and decide at that point as to whether or not I want to check it out; sometimes I do, other times I don’t. It really just depends. If the title is eye catching enough then in all likelihood I will take a gander, but if it’s a topic that something along the lines of “Long Time No Blog” or “Lazy” etc, then I’ll probably pass it up, because while I do enjoy reading about some people’s life to a certain extent, there has to be a grab factor for me. Make it humorous, heartbreaking, or something (did I mention sex sales?), but if it’s just about your day to day activities, well quite frankly I don’t really give a damn and chances are no does other (I just happen to have the balls to say it.)
In any event, when I talk about twitter etiquette and abuse, I’m talking about the people who tweet that they have a new blog post multiple times through out the day, when hello, we got your tweet the first time. The more you spam, the faster I’ll be at not only ignoring your blog post, your blog, and you, but also un-following you because you just don’t get it. So not only have you sacrificed your blog viewership but you’ve also managed to lose a follower– not a good move in the blogging world. Not a good move at all. And last but definitely not least in my book of twitter etiquette lands squarely on paid blog posts, which admittedly I do. However, I also have the decency to realize that my readers may not actually want to be informed of such posts, so to save them the agony of visiting my blog thinking I have a new, awesome post (because come on, all my posts are awesome), I do not tweet about, nor do I send out e-mails to my subscribers about these posts because I understand just how irritating it is to think you’re reading a post about something relevant and then out of no where get hit with a link. It’s like really, what the fuck? Nice way to blindside me. So out of courtesy for the few readers I have, I avoid the following:
- Tweeting multiple times about a blog post to try and get comments because no one has commented yet. Give it time, sheesh!
- Tweeting about sponsored posts. Come on do readers really want to read those? Do you?
So perhaps (assuming you’re guilty of the above), you should too.*
*Feel free to share other twitter etiquette suggestions– not that I really care, but hey, others might.
May 23, 2010
If you want to know the fastest way to discourage visitors from your blog and instead encourage them to leave, I’m about to let you in on a little secret. I mean you’d think it would be common sense but given that I’ve visited multiple blogs in the past few days, all of which have this particular trait in common, apparently not so much.
So you want to know the secret, eh? Alright, be prepared to NOT be shocked or in awe because really it’s common knowledge, or at least so one would hope.
DO NOT HAVE MUSIC PLAYING ON YOUR BLOG!
… or at the very least if you just have to have music, don’t put it on auto play. Let your visitors decide whether they want to tolerate the crap music you decided to put on (trust me, usually it’s all crap). When I visit a blog and music starts blaring at me, the first thing I do is locate the red x on the top of my monitor and get the fuck off the page. So for those who seem to think it’s cool, cute, or whatever, newsflash IT’S NOT.
So do me a favor or for fuck’s sake do the entire world wide web a favor and save the music for your ears because we sure as hell don’t want to hear it.
May 17, 2010
One of my biggest pet peeves (as most know who are close to me) are people who, bitch and moan about their situation and just how horrible it is and don’t do anything about it. I’ve heard it all before and believe me I’ve also done it before, so I’m pretty familiar with the whole concept. The only difference? I had a friend who was kind enough to tell me to shut the fuck up if I wasn’t going to do anything to improve my situation when I had the capability to do so.
Now, don’t get me wrong– I get it, sometimes you just need to bitch and rant and that’s fine, however what I cannot tolerate is bitching and moaning about the same damn thing over and over again, while expecting things to change even though you know damn well it’s not because you haven’t done anything to get off your ass to change it. My dad is an excellent example of this. He bitches and moans about his situation with his girlfriend which he’s been in for over 5 years, but hasn’t done a damn thing to change it. There comes a point when talking to him just gets redundant because he goes on and on about the same damn things, which I’ve heard before for many, many years, which if I’m honest, makes it hard to be sympathetic to his plight/situation.
Here’s my thing, we’re all in bad situations and while it can prove difficult to extract yourself from those situations– especially when it concerns someone you love, it’s not impossible to do so. My shining example in this case is Danika. Sure, it took her a few years, but she’s doing it. It took her some time but she realized that ultimately her decision is for the best and she’d doing what’s necessary to improve her life and get away from a situation that is no longer healthy for her and hasn’t been for quite some time. So excuse me if I lack sympathy for those who are in similar situations, but refuse to do something to correct it, when it’s 100% possible to do so.
Again (I feel I need to reiterate this, after all I’m not completely insensitive), I don’t mind the bitching and moaning, but if you’re not going to do something to better your situation, then do us all a favor and shut the fuck up, because continued bitching isn’t going to fix the problem, it’s just going to make everyone, namely me want to hunt you down and sew your mouth shut… well, hey– now there’s a thought.
Apr 28, 2010
You know it’s kind of funny (I bet now you’re wondering what’s kind of funny—I’m getting to that, be patience damnit). What’s funny is that I’m snarky, bitchy, and sarcastic in real life but if I’m perfectly honest with myself, I tend to censor those traits on the web. I think in large part it has to do with the fact that I own a message board and I have to wonder if my members would appreciate that side of me so I kind of tone it down, which you know isn’t really fair to me or to them.
Now I bet, you’re sitting here thinking how in the fuck is not being snarky, bitchy, or sarcastic unfair to my members (well if you weren’t, you are now); well to put things simply it’s untruthful to who I am and as a result its untruthful to them (then again maybe they like that?). In any event I’m tired of being this façade of caring and understanding (now don’t get me wrong, I am in fact caring and understanding to an extent) and when I say that I mean caring and understanding to people who don’t deserve it because they’re clearly idiots and honestly should be pointed at and ridiculed for pure stupidity. Oops, was that mean? Oh what, that’s right I don’t give a fuck. Seriously. If you get offended, guess what? You needed to hear it and more importantly people need to stop coddling you because that’s the last thing this world needs. Another moron running around who is high as a cloud because someone didn’t have the balls to bitch slap you into realizing, you are not okay; in fact you’re far from it and need to realize that your reality is so far gone, help might not even help you.
The world today is such a disappointment. Too many people being hand held through life and far too many people who don’t realize just how idiotic they are because we have too many people who are willing to be empathetic (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing) to the wrong people or situation. Case in point:
Someone who cheats on their spouse, posts about it and then asks that people not judge them for it.
Are you fucking kidding me? Who the fuck wouldn’t judge you? Hello, what world have you stepped into that you think you can post about something like that and expect people not to judge you for it. Are you delusional—wait, don’t answer that, clearly we know the answer. And guess what all those people who are saying, “I would never judge you because I don’t know the entire situation and I’m not in your shoes.” are LYING. Yes, you heard me—err read it, lying. They’re so full of shit when they say that it’s not even funny. Of course they’re judging you, it’s human nature. They’ve just decided to channel that judgment into yet another unnecessary coddle which results in yet another moron who should not be allowed to walk down the street because reality for them is the one which they’ve constructed in their head and not the one which we all agree upon. Wake up, if you cheated on your spouse you’re going to be judged for it; it’s a fact of life, one that I’ve lived through and guess what I came out unscathed—okay maybe not completely unscathed, but I survived didn’t I?
Another situation in which empathy was displayed incorrectly:
Someone who has a child to raise complains about how they don’t have any money due to a lack of a job and lack of trying, yet spends money on a World of Warcraft monthly subscription.
Do I even have to say anything about this? Wait, yes I do, because once again we’re too busy coddling these fucktards, instead of bitch slapping them and saying, “Stop bitching that you don’t have any money. Get off your fucking ass and get a job and for the love of G-d, cancel your damn WoW subscription, because you’re child is far more important. Right?” Sure, the job market is tough, but it’s not impossible to find something. Work at Burger King or McDonald’s for goodness sake. Whatever is necessary to support your child. Now is not the time to be picky. But what do instead? We tell them how sorry we are that they don’t have any money and hope their situation gets better. Really? Is that helping anyone at all? No, it’s just leading to yet another moron out on the streets, that I have to deal with (yes, I am so self-important, that now you’re displaced empathy is effecting me) and as a result another person I have to give a reality check because people were too nice to do it themselves.
So I am a bitch. I am snarky and I am sarcastic—but wouldn’t you rather have someone like me then some slum who thinks empathy/coddling is the method to use on EVERYONE?
Yeah, I thought so too; because let’s face it, I am that awesome and let’s not forget that I am also the one who saves you countless headaches by preventing even more morons from trolling the streets.*
*pssh! Queen B is back, hang tight or get the fuck out of my way.
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