No Apologies for How I Chose To Repair What You Broke

Jul 13, 2010

Those who know me, know that one of my biggest pet peeves is having someone not listen when I ask them to do something or just decide that whatever they’re doing is much more important than my request. If you’re trying to get my blood boiling, that’s probably the best way to go about it because not only do I feel disrespected but I also feel very devalued.

A great example of this is when I was younger and I asked one of my sisters to get me one of the hand dryers. It wasn’t of great importance but for them to acknowledge my request and then wait about 45 minutes before fulfilling it really frustrates me. It’s true that I could just get it on my own and alleviate the middle man, but usually if I make a request for someone to do something for me it’s because I’m currently pre-occupied with something much more important and can’t go about doing it myself or I am physically or mentally unable to do it.

If I had to pick one of the biggest annoyances when it comes to Robby and our marriage, I would definitely have to say it’s that. It’s frustrating and half the time I end up just doing it myself and turn around to find him all sad and pouty because he choose to wait before doing what I asked. As much as I see how upset he is about the situation, given that it has happened on numerous occasions and continues to happen, I refuse to apologize for it nor do I think I should.

It’s not my fault he can’t do what’s asked of him to begin with and that ultimately when it boils down to it, I’m better off doing it myself then relying on him.

Twitter Etiquette

May 24, 2010

I don’t know about anyone else, but I think this is something that needs to be addressed; especially given that this has become a HUGE platform for bloggers to promote their blogs by tweeting when a new blog has been posted on their website. It’s an awesome tool– when used appropriately.

To be more specific, it’s a great tool to use, to say, “Hey, guess what I blogged, come check it out!” But is there such thing as overuse? I believe so. Posting once that you’ve updated is great. I see the tweet and decide at that point as to whether or not I want to check it out; sometimes I do, other times I don’t. It really just depends. If the title is eye catching enough then in all likelihood I will take a gander, but if it’s a topic that something along the lines of “Long Time No Blog” or “Lazy” etc, then I’ll probably pass it up, because while I do enjoy reading about some people’s life to a certain extent, there has to be a grab factor for me. Make it humorous, heartbreaking, or something (did I mention sex sales?), but if it’s just about your day to day activities, well quite frankly I don’t really give a damn and chances are no does other (I just happen to have the balls to say it.)

In any event, when I talk about twitter etiquette and abuse, I’m talking about the people who tweet that they have a new blog post multiple times through out the day, when hello, we got your tweet the first time. The more you spam, the faster I’ll be at not only ignoring your blog post, your blog, and you, but also un-following you because you just don’t get it. So not only have you sacrificed your blog viewership but you’ve also managed to lose a follower– not a good move in the blogging world. Not a good move at all. And last but definitely not least in my book of twitter etiquette lands squarely on paid blog posts, which admittedly I do. However, I also have the decency to realize that my readers may not actually want to be informed of such posts, so to save them the agony of visiting my blog thinking I have a new, awesome post (because come on, all my posts are awesome), I do not tweet about, nor do I send out e-mails to my subscribers about these posts because I understand just how irritating it is to think you’re reading a post about something relevant and then out of no where get hit with a link. It’s like really, what the fuck? Nice way to blindside me. So out of courtesy for the few readers I have, I avoid the following:

• Tweeting multiple times about a blog post to try and get comments because no one has commented yet. Give it time, sheesh!
• Tweeting about sponsored posts. Come on do readers really want to read those? Do you?

So perhaps (assuming you’re guilty of the above), you should too.*

*Feel free to share other twitter etiquette suggestions– not that I really care, but hey, others might.

Let Me Let You In On A Little Not So Secret, Secret

May 23, 2010

If you want to know the fastest way to discourage visitors from your blog and instead encourage them to leave, I’m about to let you in on a little secret. I mean you’d think it would be common sense but given that I’ve visited multiple blogs in the past few days, all of which have this particular trait in common, apparently not so much.

So you want to know the secret, eh? Alright, be prepared to NOT be shocked or in awe because really it’s common knowledge, or at least so one would hope.

… or at the very least if you just have to have music, don’t put it on auto play. Let your visitors decide whether they want to tolerate the crap music you decided to put on (trust me, usually it’s all crap). When I visit a blog and music starts blaring at me, the first thing I do is locate the red x on the top of my monitor and get the fuck off the page. So for those who seem to think it’s cool, cute, or whatever, newsflash IT’S NOT.

So do me a favor or for fuck’s sake do the entire world wide web a favor and save the music for your ears because we sure as hell don’t want to hear it.

This Is The Best Idea I`ve Had All Day!

May 17, 2010

One of my biggest pet peeves (as most know who are close to me) are people who, bitch and moan about their situation and just how horrible it is and don’t do anything about it. I’ve heard it all before and believe me I’ve also done it before, so I’m pretty familiar with the whole concept. The only difference? I had a friend who was kind enough to tell me to shut the fuck up if I wasn’t going to do anything to improve my situation when I had the capability to do so.

Now, don’t get me wrong– I get it, sometimes you just need to bitch and rant and that’s fine, however what I cannot tolerate is bitching and moaning about the same damn thing over and over again, while expecting things to change even though you know damn well it’s not because you haven’t done anything to get off your ass to change it. My dad is an excellent example of this. He bitches and moans about his situation with his girlfriend which he’s been in for over 5 years, but hasn’t done a damn thing to change it. There comes a point when talking to him just gets redundant because he goes on and on about the same damn things, which I’ve heard before for many, many years, which if I’m honest, makes it hard to be sympathetic to his plight/situation.

Here’s my thing, we’re all in bad situations and while it can prove difficult to extract yourself from those situations– especially when it concerns someone you love, it’s not impossible to do so. My shining example in this case is Danika. Sure, it took her a few years, but she’s doing it. It took her some time but she realized that ultimately her decision is for the best and she’d doing what’s necessary to improve her life and get away from a situation that is no longer healthy for her and hasn’t been for quite some time. So excuse me if I lack sympathy for those who are in similar situations, but refuse to do something to correct it, when it’s 100% possible to do so.

Again (I feel I need to reiterate this, after all I’m not completely insensitive), I don’t mind the bitching and moaning, but if you’re not going to do something to better your situation, then do us all a favor and shut the fuck up, because continued bitching isn’t going to fix the problem, it’s just going to make everyone, namely me want to hunt you down and sew your mouth shut… well, hey– now there’s a thought.