You Learn Something New Every Day

Jan 21, 2010

Today out of pure curiosity, I texted Robby to ask him if guys talk about sex the way girls talk about sex. To my complete surprise, he said no, and that it was almost exclusively a girl thing. Anyone else happen to find this strange? When I probed him further to ask why that was, he said he wasn’t sure but believed that perhaps it had to do with the whole homophobic line that guys are so terrified to cross. He said if they discussed sex in the manner that girls do, then it would imply that they would be picturing each other having sex and well, for a guy you see the problem.

Funnily enough though, when I talk sex with my girlfriends, I don’t picture what they’re doing, rather I’m intrigued by what I could possibly try myself. When we talk positions or orgasms, it’s more of a huh, I should try that out, or a hmm, I wonder if I could achieve that type of reaction and not the, visual that Robby seems to say is the case for men. While, I understand where he is coming from, it all seems a bit silly to me, though in some regards, I feel kind of relieved, because honestly it would be strange to feel as if whenever the guys are over, rather then just hanging out and having fun, they’re instead remembering what Robby could have possibly told them about the night before last, etc– well, you get the picture, lol.

I guess in some ways that’s not fair to Robby, because I do gab with my girls about the things we do, but I don’t think they think about those things whenever we have them over to hang out. For girls, I think it’s purely science and more of a reconnaissance chat, as opposed to the OMG visual, that seem to be the problem for men. I mean, how cool would it be if a man could go to his guy friend and say “Hey, tried this out with my girl last night and she LOVED it, maybe you should give it a shot and see how it goes?” Could you imagine the possibilities? Sadly, though I don’t think that’s a hope worth holding on to, because despite the fact that guys say we’re too difficult to understand, it’s really the man’s brain that makes me scratch my head like a chimp and say “huh”?